“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep balance you must keep moving” - Albert Einstein
Recently I was at the river in Pine Falls, Manitoba just shy of an hour and a half away from the salon hanging out in the Gazebo with my in-laws. As I looked out towards the water, I saw Rory playing fetch with the local neighbourhood dog Brodie. Then it dawned on me, when did my baby become this energized, curious little 4 year old boy with such a big vocabulary?
I worked so hard in the early stages of his childhood rebuilding my clientele that those memories of him being so little are slipping away. Do you ever feel like you're just this robot on auto pilot; sleep, eat, work, repeat? If you're reading this blog looking for me to tell you how to balance your life, I’m sorry to disappoint you but you won’t find it here. You will drive yourself crazy trying to balance it all.
The BTC Hair Awards recently happened, an award show for hairstylists all around North America, and while all my fellow hairstylists were out mingling and celebrating this event that brings the hair community together, I made the decision to stay home with my family. It wasn’t an easy decision to make because I’m gone a lot of the time with travelling, education and doing hair shows, that I always miss out on the little weekends away with my son. I had to sacrifice my time away to create memories with Rory that I won’t be able to get back.
SACRIFICE: To me, balancing life as a hard working mother is all about sacrifice; making the decision to sacrifice time away from the family or sacrificing my family time for work.
SOCIAL: My social circle is small and I surround myself with people who have a similar outlook on life and people with similar goals. I’ve lost some friends along this journey and the ones that I keep are the ones who have been on this road with me & understand.
HEALTH: is something I’m always struggling with. A busy stylist can go through an 8 hour+ day with no break. No break means no time to eat or even get a sip of water. I’m just realizing now in my 8 years of experience is to stop take a moment to eat. Your brain needs fuel to work and create amazing transformations. Your body comes first always so take the time to eat and drink water before you ruin your temple.
GUILT; this feeling must be pretty mutual for any parent. We all know this one all too well. But over the years I've learned to go and do the things I want to do whole-heartedly. Especially if it requires having to be away from your child. I believe there's something in showing your child the value of why "'mommy has to be away" or "why I have to go to work". I hope that one day they'll learn by example and know that the only thing that will take them far is hard work and determination. So, let go of the guilt.
HELP; it's really does take a village to raise a child. If you're doing it on your own then kudos to you. But whether it means putting your child in daycare or asking relatives to watch them. Seeking for support and ultimately just asking for help is one of the biggest keys to leading a successful career.
Trying to achieve that work-life balance is going to be different for every mom. It may not be not be perfect- but it's what works for you and your family. I know that if I want to be the best mom I can be I have to continue to fulfill my dreams. And be that woman/mother my child can be proud of.